Carolyn Kizer's "Poem for Your Birthday; For Barbara Thompson" is a reflective and intimate celebration of a long-standing friendship between two women whose lives have intertwined through various experiences and shared memories. The poem touches on themes of aging, the passage of time, and the enduring bond of friendship that transcends physical presence. The poem begins by noting the significant milestone both women share: "This year both our birthdays end in zero, / Symbol, perhaps, of the nothing we'll become / Except as the reflections of our children." This opening sets a contemplative tone, acknowledging the inevitable progression of life and the legacy they leave through their children. The mention of "the next millennium / Now so near" underscores the rapid passage of time and the proximity of the future, which once seemed distant and abstract. Kizer reflects on their fortunate beginnings: "Born fortunate, two creatures petted and well-fed / With milk and vitamins, thus our good teeth and skin; / Curled hair and handmade clothes and patent slippers." This nostalgic recollection highlights the comfort and privilege of their upbringing, contrasting it with the hardships faced by others: "This side of the moat from the desperate unemployed. / Ah yes! — and hasn't that come round again!" The return of economic disparity serves as a reminder of the cyclical nature of societal challenges. The poem delves into their personal journeys, marked by significant historical and personal events: "We've perched on the edge of revolution, war, / I in China, you in Pakistan. / We both knew children who have died by fire." These lines capture the gravity of their experiences and the depth of their empathy, forged through shared tragedies and global awareness. Their mutual understanding and compassion for humanity are highlighted: "We're yoked in sympathy for all that's human, / Having loved those of every tone of skin, / Having lived the loss of extraordinary men." Kizer fondly recalls the literary and intellectual exchanges that have enriched their friendship: "And the poems we've read aloud to one another! / You wave your arm in a wide arc of rapture, / Moved by the Muse, and another glass of wine." The image of one friend gesturing passionately while reciting poetry evokes a sense of shared joy and artistic connection. The appreciation of each other's unique quirks further cements their bond: "I cherish that characteristic gesture / As you must smile at some oddity of mine." The poem also acknowledges the everyday conversations and shared interests that have strengthened their friendship: "To truly relish trivia in flower, / Woman-talk of recipes and clothes, / One must be aware of that high discourse / On art and life we could deal with if we chose!" This juxtaposition of the trivial and the profound underscores the richness of their relationship, capable of navigating both mundane and lofty topics. Kizer emphasizes the resilience of their connection despite life's interruptions: "Though years of parting intervene, / Though illness, duties, children interrupt, / We know we'll go on talking till the end / Or after, when we still reach out in thought, / Or waking, sense the living person near." The continuity of their friendship, undeterred by physical separation or the challenges of life, is portrayed as a source of enduring comfort and support. The poem concludes with a heartfelt affirmation of their bond: "The password at the boundary is Friend." This final line encapsulates the essence of their relationship, emphasizing that true friendship transcends all barriers and remains a guiding force in their lives. "Poem for Your Birthday; For Barbara Thompson" by Carolyn Kizer is a beautifully crafted tribute to friendship, capturing the intricate layers of shared history, mutual understanding, and unwavering support. Through her reflective and evocative language, Kizer celebrates the profound connection that defines their relationship, highlighting the timeless and transformative power of true friendship. |